7 Attributes That Can Make or Break You by Jimi Akanbi

7 attributes


About the Book

Are you aware of your personal attributes? Your negative characters do not need to be permanent. You have the power to change them!

Jealousy, judging, pride, and living by chance are attributes that hinder a person from getting the most out of life. Most people who suffer from any or all of these characters do not even know it. In this book, the author gives you inspirational words on how to change your life by changing your ways.

7 Attributes That Can Make or Break You discusses three crucial attributes (God’s wisdom, mercy, and giving) which can show you open heavens here on earth. Jimi shares unique and practical illustrations, and life experiences which he backs up with biblical scriptures.


Book Excerpt

Chapter 1

Jealousy and envy between people should not occur in this world we live in. I say this confidently, because jealousy and envy mostly arise from covetousness, or from one person not being content with his or her material possessions, position, job, spouse, and so on. As a result, he or she starts to envy the one who has abundant blessings. God is the One who gives man all blessings, and He gives it as He will and no one can query Him. If man can realize this, he will refrain from envy and jealousy.

When you see a man prospering in his ways, do not envy him, because you do not know the measure of grace which God has given him. Therefore, instead of being jealous of the man, glorify God and ask for more grace upon your life.

Let me shed some light on this. Imagine you own a manufacturing company of a hundred employees, and one of your products becomes faulty. A customer shows up at your firm and is attended to by an employee. Will you expect the customer to complain and yell at the worker? Yes, this is what happens in this present world we live in! Is it the right thing to do? No, the owner of the firm should be the one responsible for the sub-standard product. The owner is the one who came up with the product idea and should be the one to become irate with. In this same manner, God is the creator of man. He is the One who blesses and prospers man; so, if anyone is jealous of his neighbor, stop and go face God, not man.

There are many results of jealousy and envy, including theft, hatred, murder, malice, anger, and so on. When man exhibits the genuine spirit of God’s love, he or she cannot harbor jealousy and envy in the heart. Love is a very potent spiritual weapon given to man by God. This is one great reason God made love the most important commandment in the bible.

If you look at the biblical scripture, you would see that Cain killed his brother, Abel out of jealousy because God accepted Abel’s sacrifice but rejected Cain’s.

Abel also brought of the firstborn of his flock and of their fat. And the LORD respected Abel and his offering

But He did not respect Cain and his offering. And Cain was very angry, and his countenance fell.

So the LORD said to Cain, “Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen?

If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”

Now Cain talked with Abel his brother; and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother and killed him.

Genesis 4:4-8

You can see how jealousy leads to murder. After Cain had sinned against God by taking his innocent brother’s life, God placed a curse on him saying when he tills the ground, it shall no longer yield its strength to him. God also said Cain shall be a fugitive and a vagabond on the earth. Perhaps, Cain may have been very poor, miserable, without peace on the face of the earth, and missed his destiny as a result of the curse he received from God.

I hope you are now aware that the spirit of jealousy is not of God; rather, it is of the enemy. This spirit only leads to destruction. Let me shed some more light on this. I confidently say that the enemy is the author of jealousy, because in the first place, the devil was in heaven, but he became jealous of God and therefore, tried to commit treason in the heavenly kingdom. As a result of this, he was cast out of heaven. This act of jealousy was what made the devil an enemy of God.

The following biblical scriptures are about jealousy:

Place me like a seal over your heart,

Like a seal on your arm;

For love is as strong as death,

its jealousy unyielding as the grave.

It burns like blazing fire,

like a mighty flame.

Song of Solomon 8:6

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

 1 Corinthians 13:4

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.

Philippians 2:3

But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth.

This wisdom does not descend from above, but is earthly, sensual, demonic.

James 3: 14-15

Do not fret because of evildoers,

Nor be envious of the workers of iniquity.

For they shall soon be cut down like the grass,

And wither as the green herb.

Trust in the LORD, and do good;

Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.

Psalm 37:1-3

For jealousy is a husband’s fury;

Therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.

Proverbs 6: 34

For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.

James 3:16

Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members?

You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask.

James 4:1-2

“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house; you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor’s.”

Exodus 20:17

Wrath is cruel and anger a torrent,

But who is able to stand before jealousy?

Proverbs 27:4

In the story of Joseph, we can see that God showed him in a dream that he would be a great man, even greater than all his brothers to the point of them bowing down before him. Joseph’s siblings could not comprehend the order of his blessings and became jealous of him to the point of plotting to kill him. They finally settled to sell him into slavery. Can you see the spirit of jealousy at work? Perhaps God might have cursed Joseph’s brothers if they had killed him. This is a perfect example that shows you that the measure of the grace of God given to one man may be more or less than that given to another. What am I stressing here? There is no need for jealousy and envy, instead pray to God to increase His grace upon your life.

We are all humans by nature, which is why the enemy tries to war against our minds with garbage, such as envy, jealousy, strife, and so on. In this case, we can use the weapons of God’s word by renewing our minds with biblical scriptures.

In order to avoid falling prey to the spirit of jealousy and envy, continually dwell on these scriptures:

A friend loves at all times,

And a brother is born for adversity.

Proverbs 17:17

Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.

John 15:13

But love your enemies, do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High. For He is kind to the unthankful and evil.

Luke 6:35

When a man’s ways please the LORD,

He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.

Proverbs 16:7

And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

 Ephesians 4:32

Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;

bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”

 1 Peter 4:8

We can see that Jesus never had any sign of jealousy and envy during His ministry on earth. When man becomes born again, he or she must strive to live like Christ. That is, to live a holy life.

Do you know that love is the opposite of jealousy? Do you know that love gave birth to man’s salvation as seen in John 3:16? If love does all of these great things such as salvation, life, healing, and confidence, what will jealousy and envy produce? These will bring about destruction, malice, hatred, unrest, anger, quarrels, sickness, stress, and even death.

Follow me closely on this; God has commanded in His ten laws the precepts that man must live by. He made love the greatest commandment in the Bible; that is, you should love the Lord your God with all your heart and love your neighbor as yourself. You may be wondering why I am stressing this point. The reason is, if love is the greatest commandment, and love is the opposite of jealousy and envy,  does this make jealousy one of the greatest sins? That is something to think about.

The more grace a person has, the higher he or she soars in life, and the more this person is jealous of and envied by others. Jealousy is a spirit that is transferred from one man’s generation to generations to come. What I mean here is that a man or woman who possesses the spirit of jealousy, and does not terminate it before producing offspring, is likely to transfer this spirit to his or her children. This is a big reason people need to purge out the spirit of jealousy early enough so it does not get passed onto their children.

It is better to prevent than to cure jealousy; that is, being offensive with the word of God, prayer, and fasting, and praise. However, if you already contacted this spirit, there is still a great opportunity to get defensive with God’s word, praise, prayer, and fasting.

Jealousy and envy is one spirit that tons of millions of people are suffering from, including Christians. If you are part of this statistic, do not lose hope; rather, take heart! God is always ready and able to deliver you. A good starting point to your freedom is to dwell on the biblical scriptures in this chapter.

Start to live a life full of love and kindness, not just towards your family and friends, but also towards strangers and enemies. When your obedience is complete in this area, you are bound to receive more blessings from heaven. For example, when you see a man or woman amassing wealth, riches, fame, or respect, rather than harboring envy, jealousy, or even hatred, be sincerely happy for him or her, and congratulate the person. Do you know that this single act can touch God’s heart and make Him elevate and prosper you? The greatest thing you can do is to love God, yourself, and everyone else.



About the Author

Jimi Akanbi is a Christian nonfiction author, who is sold out to God. He just does not write books as he feels; he writes as he is inspired by God. He lives in Atlanta, Georgia USA. He has an MBA in Finance from Mercer University, Atlanta Georgia. He is currently an active member of the prayer and intercessory team at his church. He has also served God as an usher and protocol officer at his previous church. Jimi has undergone a formal ten week bible training course. His interests include writing, counseling, ministry, movies, sports, music and more. He was miraculously called by God to be in the writing ministry, and he is acting in obedience.


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